How To Control Your Emotions Before They Contro Your Life.

Have you ever said something especially to your children or partner, that you regretted? Do you have fears that prevent you from taking risks that would benefit you? If you answered yes, you are not in control of your emotions, and believe me, you are not alone. Gaining control over your emotions helps you become mentally strong, and the good thing is that anyone can become better at regulating their emotions. The flip side is that if you don’t learn to manage your emotions, they can make a mess of your life.
Emotions are powerful and it’s been proven that emotions are the base by which we thrive as humans. Many people believe that they manage their emotions well because they don’t talk about them or respond. Ignoring emotions like anger, sadness, embarrassment, guilt, etc is not the same as having control over your emotions. Your emotions are a determinant factor in how you:

  • Interact with people.
  • Spend your money.
  • Spend your time.
  • How do you deal with your challenges, and
  • Who you become.

There is no success without your ability to manage your emotions. For you to succeed in managing your emotions, there are factors you have to handle, and they are;

  1. Impact Of Emotions. Many of us do not know that emotions have impacts. Acknowledging and being conscious of them is key. Intense emotions are not bad rather emotions make our life exciting, unique, vibrant, etc. It is natural to be overwhelmed with emotions from time to time when something wonderful or terrible happens but it is vital that you know when there is a problem. A conflicting marriage or friendship, a limitation on your social interaction, or constantly having troubles at work or in school are examples of the impact of emotions. Another sign of emotional impact is Numbing Feelings: Having the urge to numb a feeling or feelings by intake alcohol or drugs to calm your nerves or make the feeling go away shows that you are struggling with your emotions. In addition, is Physical Outbursts: Thinking that yelling when trying to discipline someone, is an impact of irresponsible emotional regulation.
  2. Accept All Emotions: All emotions are valid but it is what you do with them that makes the difference. Anger is a valid emotion and can get you success but it depends on how you handle and how you turn it around matters.
  3. Regulating Emotions: Your inability to say how you feel is a disaster, and your inability to name how you feel is a bigger disaster because for you to manage any form of emotion, you must learn what that emotion does to you. Repressing your emotions won’t help you.
  4. Get Help: Allow help!! Allow yourself to be helped. When you are in trouble or going through emotional turmoil, seek help. Bottling things up can make you anxious or depressed which will end in placing you on drugs. The drugs will do nothing for you.
    There are things you can’t control like the death of a loved one and there are things you can control and influence. So when you find yourself in things that are out of your control, you build skills that can help you in that circle of influence. Here are ways by which you can achieve that: 1. Label Your Emotions: Before you can change how you feel, you need to acknowledge what you are experiencing. A lot of people can’t name their emotions because they’ve not been taught how to unmask their emotions, e.g if the school authority calls to let you know that your child was caught in exam malpractice. The normal reaction will be to shout, yell, and hit the child in the name of being angry but in the real sense, it’s embarrassment and shame. When you handle the problem from the angle of anger, it can’t be dealt with properly because you haven’t named what you are feeling. 2 . Reframe Your Thoughts: In Philippians 4: 8, states, ” Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, things that are of good report if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” There is a process and skill of reframing your thoughts. Your thoughts affect the way you perceive events. You need to learn how to consider the emotion filter through which you view the world from. If you can’t control your emotions, you are still viewing the world through the lens your parents gave you and you’ve not been able to refine it. 3 . Create A Strategy: Creating a strategy to work on your emotions or practicing emotional regulation skills is key. If there is no strategy and you do not go through a curriculum, you cannot change. Your change is not in who you are but in who you are becoming. When you gain control over your emotions, you become a better person.

Emotions are the control valve of your life. Troubles will never cease to come. When they come, what do you do? Being able to control your emotion is essential. The parenting journey is a tough one. As a parent, how do you manage that situation? Emotional control is not a prayer point but a skill.

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This course only airs once every year and it leaves you with the kind of impact to last for years. In the past 5 years – The Intentional Parent Academy ™️ we have trained over 5,000 parents on parenting with emotional intelligence.

We currently have over 500 parents already registered for this cohort. This course will show you in practical terms how you can work on your
emotions and use them positively in your journey as a parent

•Learn to Understand Your Emotions

•Understand Your Yelling Triggers And Ditch Them

•How Emotions Management can help behavior management/discipline in parenting,
•Learn how emotions management helps us become better people.


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•1 month follow up and accountability circle worth 50,000

•Get access to 5 support resources to help you on your journey worth 250,000

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