Many times I hear parents compare their times with the times their children live in.
The phrase “In our own time ” is very commonplace among parents.
Now, this is not to say that there are no similarities but you will also agree with me that there are more differences than there are similarities.
The truth remains that the 21st-century child is faced with many things we were not faced within ‘our times’
It’s not the same.
For instance, I remember that access to pornography for many of us was only on hints magazine, the then “ikebe super” woman ( she wasn’t even naked ).
Yes, there were blue movies but how do you even want to watch it at home? When the ‘powerful’ NEPA (National Electric power Authority)can do magic and the cassettes will be lost in the machine until your parents get home.
These vices were there but access was hard.
Today our children are faced with easier access to pornography, drugs and other vicious vices in their faces and we still argue it’s the same?
The internet changed the game called parenting for us in the 21st century…trust me it’s harder.
Unfortunately, we also do not have the capacity to guide in this century, *because we were raised for a world that no longer exists.*
Parenting education can never be overemphasized, unlike the times we were raised which we keep referring to, there is more to deal with today.
The Internet, the media is now more vicious and we do not even have time to guide them any more.
These days the media are the parents.
Gadgets are the pacifiers.
We forget that parenting is about presence.
Like I often say ;
If you don’t spend time meeting the emotional need of your child, you will spend time dealing with the behaviour from that unmet need either ways you do the time. _wendy Ologe_
Our parents had it better, their “devils” didn’t include the internet.
The environment then allowed the “village to raise a child”…so those our patents had shared struggles.
Let’s face it, the 21st century is a tough time to be a child and be a parent also. I shared more examples in my best seller Connect To Correct.
Unfortunately, this is the truth.
Until you understand that the saviour of raising a child in the 21st century is Intentionality, Knowledge, Skills & Grit, you will be stuck.
What is your plan for 2020 on your parenting goals? At the Intentional Parent Academy, we created a goal accountability class for the year. We already have 35 parents in the academy on this journey. We are taking off 1st of January. We had made this a closed class but parents are asking to be part of it.
How are you planning to raise the bar in 2020?
I often say, ‘you can’t fight the system, we can only raise the bar and raise better people to create a better system.’
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