TALKING TO YOUR CHILD IS NOT ENOUGH
“I hit or flog my child because I can’t just talk, it’s not enough! “, A parent sent me this recently . While I agree that you can’t just talk, however, that is not the reason you you are a cane-wielding parent. , it’s simply because you can’t set boundaries and stick to them.
Yesss,
📌You hit your child because you don’t understand how to set rules and consequences and stick to it.
📌You hit because it doesn’t involve thinking, so it’s easier.
📌You hit because you don’t have control over your emotions, so you “hurt” when consequences should take place and you rather choose a quick fix …let it all out and get it all wrong too.
So yes you can’t just talk but you must learn what to do. What Boundaries are you setting?
Like I shared in my book Connect to Correct, your words won’t do anything without setting rules and consequences.
💥’Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership.
Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom. Taking responsibility for my life opens up many different options.
💥Boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. Setting boundaries inevitably involves taking responsibility for your choices. You are the one who makes them. You are the one who must live with their consequences. And you are the one who may be keeping yourself from making the choices you could be happy with. We must own our own thoughts and clarify distorted thinking.
✔When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their irresponsibility.
✔Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them.
📌If you have been enabling your child to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.”
However, you can’t do this without having control over your emotions. if you struggle with always flogging your child and don’t know how to set boundaries, then our “Becoming an Emotionally Intelligent parent” online course is for you. Just use the link in comment section to see all about this course.
Be Intentional.
©Wendy Ologe
Parent Coach & Author
Great content! Super high-quality! Keep it up! 🙂
Thank you
Today, I went to the beach with my kids. I found a sea shell and
gave it to my 4 year old daughter and said “You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear.” She put the shell to her ear and screamed.
There was a hermit crab inside and it pinched her ear. She
never wants to go back! LoL I know this is entirely off topic but I had to tell someone!
Awwww,I can Imagine how she felt. Thank you for sharing here
I like the helpful information you supply for your articles.
I will bookmark your weblog and take a look at again here regularly.
I am fairly certain I will be informed plenty of new stuff proper right here!
Good luck for the following!
P.S. If you have a minute, would love your feedback
on my new website
re-design. You can find it by searching for «royal cbd» — no sweat if you can’t.
Keep up the good work!
Wow Awesome, I will sure check it out. Thank you for following
Awesome things here. I am very happy to peer your post.
Thanks so much and I’m having a look ahead to touch you.
Will you please drop me a mail?
P.S. If you have a minute, would love your feedback on my new
website
re-design. You can find it by searching for «royal cbd»
— no sweat if you can’t.
Keep up the good work!
Amazing issues here. I am very glad to look your post.
Thanks a lot and I’m taking a look ahead to contact you.
Will you kindly drop me a mail?
P.S. If you have a minute, would love your feedback on my new website
re-design. You can find it by searching for «royal cbd» — no sweat if you can’t.
Keep up the good work!
First off I want to say terrific blog! I had a quick question in which I’d like to ask if you don’t mind. I was curious to know how you center yourself and clear your thoughts before writing. I’ve had a difficult time clearing my thoughts in getting my thoughts out. I do take pleasure in writing however it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are lost just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or hints? Kudos!
Hello Danette,Thank you . One thing I do that works amazing for is to write where there is less distractions, You might want to try that.
I also scribble my thoughts alot using my Iphone note on the phone and then I eventually settle in to write from those thoughts.
I hope you can give these a try and it works for you.
Like!! I blog frequently and I really thank you for your content. The article has truly peaked my interest.
Oh wow thank you.